Educating the Child About Sexuality Within the Family

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In order for parents to be good sex educators for their children, it is necessary to:

a) to show mutual attention, tenderness, consideration and respect in front of the child as often as possible;

b) to co-operate in as many areas as possible on an equal footing, to take care of the child together, to do housework together, to work together, to have fun and rest together, to rejoice together and to bear life’s difficulties together;

c) to avoid any mutual tactlessness, rudeness, insults, emotional coldness, vulgarity, quarrels and other signs of mutual intolerance;

d) to treat the child in an emotionally healthy way, to accept it with true parental love, to avoid emotionally neglecting the child, to avoiding rigid authority towards it, as well as painful sentimentality and excessive affective attachment of the child to everything;

e) to divorce if they are unable to build a harmonious, full-fledged marriage based on sincere mutual love;

f) in the event of a conflict they do not abuse the child as a means of mutual struggle, defiance or revenge, but that, despite disagreement or divorce, they treat the child as proper educators.

By adhering to these principles, the parents give the child the opportunity to identify with their natural, healthy attitude toward sexuality and with the positive emotions in their relationship with each other. In this way, the child gains confidence in the relationship between the sexes and a natural attitude towards the other sex, and these are very important components of its psychosexual maturation.

By avoiding educational mistakes and adhering as much as possible to advanced, psychohygiene-oriented education, parents build in the child a component of psychosexual maturity, and that is the confidence in their sexual role. Through proper parenting, parents train a child for love, help it become a sentient, healthy and wealthy being who will be able to accept their sexual partner with true love and build a happy sexual community with them. By cultivating a sense of community in their child, the parents incorporate into it a natural and socially acceptable attitude towards the opposite sex, as well as a sense of responsibility in sexual life. In the family upbringing of children, it is especially important to prevent rivalry among children of different sexes. This contributes to strengthening the child’s confidence in the other sex, which will be useful in the process of adjusting to a sexual partner.